

Levittown, NY | Massapequa, NY | Wantagh, NY | Garden City, NY | Atlantic Highlands, NJ | Call: (516) 588-6115
Levittown, NY | Massapequa, NY | Wantagh, NY | Garden City, NY | Atlantic Highlands, NJ | Call: (516) 588-6115
Codependency is most often associated with substance abuse and addiction. However, this kind of dysfunctional relationship can manifest in many other ways. For example, within a family unit, there are countless versions of codependency to watch out for. Consider the many potential issues related to the necessary act of setting boundaries. This can be true for traditional family composition, blended families, and families of foster children or adoptees.
Within family units, there are nearly invisible instances of manipulation, denial, controlling, rationalization, and micromanaging. In turn, one of the hallmarks of codependency is also common. Family members may behave as if they cannot be happy unless others are happy. With all that in mind, let’s explore some details about codependency within a family unit.
Many parents mistake codependency for a close relationship with their children. It is a fine line between a healthy and unhealthy attachment. Here are a few trends to watch for:
So much of our attachment style is rooted in our childhood. If you were raised by a codependent parent or caretaker, you will likely carry those tendencies with you into adulthood. This is not about genetic inheritance. Rather, we learn through experience and observation. It is what you know and what appears “normal.”
Children tend to identify with their parents. Thus, it only makes sense that they would model their own behavior after them. This can play out in many ways. For example, let’s say your parent didn’t allow you to take on responsibilities in an age-appropriate way. This leaves you without some pretty essential life skills. Logically, you may be drawn to partners who fill such gaps. If you have children, the cycle of codependency continues.
Codependency usually leads you to put the needs of others ahead of your own. This can be an obstacle when getting help. However, as section #2 above explains, you getting help will help others in your life — including possible future children. There are steps you can take in this direction, e.g.
Another major component is communication. Do the work to develop healthy communication skills. These tools will be the foundation of your recovery.
The best way to start this necessary process is to consult with an expert. An experienced therapist can guide you through the important steps of identifying and managing the issues. I would love to provide such support for you. Therefore, I invite you to reach out soon to schedule a free and confidential consultation for individual or family therapy.
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