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11 Gleaner Lane, Levittown, NY 11756 | 4133 Merrick Rd, Massapequa, NY 11758 | 25 Ocean Blvd, #2, Atlantic Highlands, NJ 07716 | 2506 Mermaid Ave, Wantagh, NY 11793 | Call: (516) 588-6115
Each of us experiences emotions in our own unique way. Grief is no different. It’s a particularly strong and enduring emotion. Thus, it’s usually safe to assume we’ll feel it more intensely and for a longer time period than most other emotions. But trying to lay out a timetable is not advised. We’re often told that grief arrives in stages (see below). However, those stages are neither linear nor predictable.
All of this information may sound vague but it’s actually quite helpful with the process. It is essential that, while mourning, you accept the severity and fluctuation of grief.
The following list can be helpful as long as you do not view it as a timetable. Rather, keep in mind that it is normal to experience any or all of these stages, regardless of order or intensity.
Any of these can coincide with the stages above but they do deserve more than a casual mention.
Death has a way of reminding us of how fragile we are. Losing someone you love can trigger thoughts about your own mortality. It can also cause health anxiety — wondering if you’re safe and well. Suddenly, your future plans seem less concrete and certain. It takes far less than usual to make you feel anxious, startled, or worried.
This may coincide with the bargaining mentioned above. You replay the events leading up to the loss and judge yourself harshly. Did I do enough? Did I say what I wanted to say? Could I have done better? Such rumination does nothing to ease the pain you’re already feeling. But it frequently feels beyond your control.
Physical Signs
Once again, this will vary from person to person but the most common physical symptoms of grief are:
The duration of grief is impossible to predict. Still, you can take steps to ease the intensity. One such step involves working with a therapist. Your weekly sessions are the ideal venue for exploring your response to the loss. Old patterns can be identified. New approaches can be tried out.
Working together with your counselor, you can give voice to what you feel and need. Grief is not a solo act. If you’re in pain, grief counseling can be your road to acceptance and healing. Let’s connect soon.
LEVITTOWN, NY
11 Gleaner Lane,
Levittown, NY 11756
WANTAGH, NY
2506 Mermaid Ave,
Wantagh, NY 11793
MASSAPEQUA, NY
4133 Merrick Rd,
Massapequa, NY 11758
ATLANTIC HIGHLANDS, NJ
25 Ocean Blvd, #2, Atlantic Highlands, NJ 07716