

11 Gleaner Lane, Levittown, NY 11756 | 4133 Merrick Rd, Massapequa, NY 11758 | 25 Ocean Blvd, #2, Atlantic Highlands, NJ 07716 | 2506 Mermaid Ave, Wantagh, NY 11793 | Call: (516) 588-6115
11 Gleaner Lane, Levittown, NY 11756 | 4133 Merrick Rd, Massapequa, NY 11758 | 25 Ocean Blvd, #2, Atlantic Highlands, NJ 07716 | 2506 Mermaid Ave, Wantagh, NY 11793 | Call: (516) 588-6115
Even when we consciously make a change, it can be challenging. Loss is a major change that is imposed upon — sometimes suddenly. You could call that major change “grief.” It changes you more than you might imagine. There are practical changes, of course, when someone is missing from your daily existence. But, in a more unexpected but powerful way, grief can change your outlook on life.
As we will discuss below, there are short-term changes that require our immediate attention. They cannot be ignored or suppressed. Meanwhile, more systemic long-term changes are looming. These will cause pain but also offer profound opportunities.
Whether you knew the loss or event was coming or not, it will feel like a jolt. Brace yourself from some rough sailing as you navigate the seemingly endless waves. In literal terms, look out for:
All of the above (and more) is normal. As long as it doesn’t lead to thoughts of self-harm or risky behaviors, you will work through it with the help of others in your life. It’s not that you’ll get “back to normal.” You now live in a new normal and that’s where the long-term changes must be faced.
Depending on who the deceased person was to you, your life will be different in several ways. Even the smallest reminders — the scent of a perfume or a certain time of year — can set off a new wave of grieving. Life may seem less fair than it did before the loss. It is vital that you keep tabs on yourself and ask for help when needed.
At the same time, though, you may begin to recognize some unexpectedly positive developments. For example:
It may surprise but it’s also not unusual to discover that you feel more capable of comforting others when they experience a loss. People may reach out to you for support and guidance. Your painful experiences can provide solace to them — and now, to you.
Many universal themes exist but still, everyone mourns differently. If something feels “off” for you, it’s always best to get some help. Untended grief can become complicated. Sometimes all it takes is finding a place where you feel safe to explore and name your emotions. That’s why so many people seek out therapy during a time of bereavement.
Contact me soon so I can help you during this period of your life through grief counseling.
LEVITTOWN, NY
11 Gleaner Lane,
Levittown, NY 11756
WANTAGH, NY
2506 Mermaid Ave,
Wantagh, NY 11793
MASSAPEQUA, NY
4133 Merrick Rd,
Massapequa, NY 11758
ATLANTIC HIGHLANDS, NJ
25 Ocean Blvd, #2, Atlantic Highlands, NJ 07716